LONLINESS
Google terms and defines loneliness as being sad about not having friends or company. in some ways it is correct but there is so much more behind this short sentence. You could be in a room full of people and still be lonely, you could have tons of friends but still be lonely,you could have thousands of followers on social media and still be lonely. It isn't about being physically accompanied by someone but being mentally and emotionally safe with them. There could be many reasons to be lonely but this one is about what most of the teenagers go through. There isn't a single teenager who hasn't ever felt lonely, and it is perfectly normal and that is why it happens to most of us.
One of the reasons could insecurity. You could have tons of friends but wouldn't let anyone in your inner life.You may be all faux with them but wouldn't let them take a peep at what is going on in your heart and mind. And that may be because we don't trust them enough to not hurt us. And it is completely normal if you have insecurities about who you are letting in your life, and often the reason to that is that someone has broken your trust in the past.
Another reason is that there is that supposedly if there is troubling you, something that makes you sad and unhappy, you wouldn't let anyone know about it because you tend to bottle up your feelings. That may be because you think that talking about your problems and letting people see that you are sad may make you seem and feel vulnerable and you don't want to be vulnerable. You want to keep the reputation of being socially normal. The thing is that no one is socially normal. The fun party girl may be partying to get her mind off her problems, the star athlete may be playing sports to run away from his/her feelings or to channel his anger and frustration into something productive because you never know what is going on someone else's mind.
If you are lonely you would feel that you are in a constant state of melancholy and you could feel that nothing makes you happy and satisfied anymore. You could have trouble sleeping or you could see some changes in the sleep patterns. If you like taking long, hot and steamy showers to overthink then you may be lonely. Songs and music are a mirror to your feelings, so if you like listening to blues and sad songs just so that you can relate to the lyrics then you may be lonely. And at last if you have the urge to push away the people you love and care then you may be lonely.
And all people my age go through this at some point. The way to deal with it is to become aware of your thoughts and feelings. It tends to get confusing but you need to tell the difference between positive and negetive thoughts and you need to accept the negetive one's and turn them into your motivation to not feel lonely anymore, to feel and become alive and happy. Don't push away the people you love and care, let them in and tell them what's troubling you and let them see your vulnerable side and confide in them not to break the trust. You have to make sure you get out of the melancholy, push yourself to be more active and social than usual even though it sucks. And lastly reach out to help someone who you think is going through something similar to what you were going through.
Love and help people you care about :)
Google terms and defines loneliness as being sad about not having friends or company. in some ways it is correct but there is so much more behind this short sentence. You could be in a room full of people and still be lonely, you could have tons of friends but still be lonely,you could have thousands of followers on social media and still be lonely. It isn't about being physically accompanied by someone but being mentally and emotionally safe with them. There could be many reasons to be lonely but this one is about what most of the teenagers go through. There isn't a single teenager who hasn't ever felt lonely, and it is perfectly normal and that is why it happens to most of us.
One of the reasons could insecurity. You could have tons of friends but wouldn't let anyone in your inner life.You may be all faux with them but wouldn't let them take a peep at what is going on in your heart and mind. And that may be because we don't trust them enough to not hurt us. And it is completely normal if you have insecurities about who you are letting in your life, and often the reason to that is that someone has broken your trust in the past.
Another reason is that there is that supposedly if there is troubling you, something that makes you sad and unhappy, you wouldn't let anyone know about it because you tend to bottle up your feelings. That may be because you think that talking about your problems and letting people see that you are sad may make you seem and feel vulnerable and you don't want to be vulnerable. You want to keep the reputation of being socially normal. The thing is that no one is socially normal. The fun party girl may be partying to get her mind off her problems, the star athlete may be playing sports to run away from his/her feelings or to channel his anger and frustration into something productive because you never know what is going on someone else's mind.
If you are lonely you would feel that you are in a constant state of melancholy and you could feel that nothing makes you happy and satisfied anymore. You could have trouble sleeping or you could see some changes in the sleep patterns. If you like taking long, hot and steamy showers to overthink then you may be lonely. Songs and music are a mirror to your feelings, so if you like listening to blues and sad songs just so that you can relate to the lyrics then you may be lonely. And at last if you have the urge to push away the people you love and care then you may be lonely.
And all people my age go through this at some point. The way to deal with it is to become aware of your thoughts and feelings. It tends to get confusing but you need to tell the difference between positive and negetive thoughts and you need to accept the negetive one's and turn them into your motivation to not feel lonely anymore, to feel and become alive and happy. Don't push away the people you love and care, let them in and tell them what's troubling you and let them see your vulnerable side and confide in them not to break the trust. You have to make sure you get out of the melancholy, push yourself to be more active and social than usual even though it sucks. And lastly reach out to help someone who you think is going through something similar to what you were going through.
Love and help people you care about :)
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