ACCEPTANCE
The word literally means the act of being accepted.
The word alone means so much that it does not need any other words to support
it. Acceptance is a very important quality. If you are ready to accept people
for who they are, then you probably are a very rare person. Acceptance is not a
common virtue. It takes people huge amount of effort to accept people for who
they are because no person is made according to you or me, there is always a
quality or trait in them that either we don’t like or the other way around.
Most of us don’t feel accepted or welcome, it is either friends who want someone
that is according to their ‘level’ or it is either parents who are imagining a
perfect child. It is those teachers who want us all to act in the same way - the
same discipline, the same sincerity, the same interests, the same “ideal
student” qualities, the same passion and intelligence. Acceptance also means
respecting individuality, which I am sure most of us don’t do. If a person is
not accepted then they feel like a complete outcast, an outsider; they start
thinking that there is something terribly wrong with themselves and that is why
they are not welcomed anywhere. Our very education system teaches us and grades
us on the basis on only a few talents, basically wanting us to be a sheep in
the large herd. If a person is not accepted, they start to spiral down their
own thoughts, they start doubting themselves, and feel completely rejected. And
if you try to change them, it just makes them feel more outcasted and lonely,
and being lonely can do some tricks on your mental health. Now, you maybe only
trying to correct their mistakes or prevent them from making terrible ones but
it doesn’t just happen in an instant or just by your repeated telling. You
telling them the same thing again and again will only make them hate you more.
You have to gain a person’s trust in order for them to believe what you are
actually saying. If you are close enough to them, they actually trust you and
your judgement and they are sure that you will never do something which is not
in their betterment. It takes time and energy to convince a person to change
something about themselves because the first person you trust is always
yourself. So give them time and make sure to keep checking on their gradual
improvement.
And if you are a person who feels outcasted and not
accepted, then let me tell you that uniqueness is a very rare attribute and you
are unique. So don’t let your spirit break just because some people think that
you should do things according to them. Be your own rhythm to your guitar and
dance to your own songs. Do not ever let outsiders tell you your worth. You are
your own unique and a beautiful person. Don’t let people’s judgement trouble
you, people will always keep talking, but you should just do your own thing
with no restrictions.
beautifully written
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